I never thought I was boring…but I may have been wrong
I am definitely at a loss for what to write this week. And I would be lying if I said that didn’t scare me. I am all too afraid of failure. And that I had a good run. But now the well is dry.
I have to remember that I have been here before. More than once in the past year and a half. And that there has always been more to write about. Eventually…
And it’s probably that I don’t have much to write about because I’m bored.
My boyfriend’s job is requiring more and more of his time. Which means I get less and less of it.
And I don’t have any friends here.
And there are no sidewalks here. And I don’t drive. I came from New York City. Who needed to drive?
And I don’t have a job here.
And there is only so much cooking and cleaning a girl can do. I mean, there are only 2 of us.
So maybe the big news is that I am more bored for more time than I can remember being, and I’m not eating compulsively. And when I consider that objectively, that’s a pretty big deal.
If you are a person who relates well to your body, knows when you are hungry and eats, knows when you are satisfied and stops, this may not seem like anything extraordinary to you.
But I am a compulsive eater. Until I got my eating under control, boredom seemed like one of the better reasons to eat. They were all good reasons – celebration, mourning, worry, stress, excitement, anxiety, good news, bad news, wanting some particular food item, wanting to get some particular food item before somebody else got it instead – but boredom was like a perfect package. I need something to do, and I love to eat. Hey! Eating is doing something!
So it is a miracle that I am not eating compulsively.
It’s not hard. I don’t mean that. I’m not tempted. Thank God. Temptation was lifted a long time ago. Occasionally, it pops up for a second or two. But I know how to stamp out a spark before it catches fire. I know not to romanticize food. Not to entertain, foster, and certainly never nurture thoughts about food. I change my mind. I cultivate my thinking. I remind myself that the truth is that eating outside of my boundaries is poison. Death and insanity. So no, not eating compulsively is not difficult.
But it is still a miracle that I am still me, and I don’t compulsively eat out of boredom. Or for any reason at all. I don’t eat compulsively. Period. That’s the miracle. That there is never a good reason to eat outside of my boundaries. Who knew?!?
We will probably be leaving here soon. Going where, we’re not sure. What comes next for my boyfriend is up to his company. And what town I live in next is up to his company too.
But as for what is next for me, well, I don’t know yet. And in the meantime, a little boredom won’t kill me. And keeping my food under control will mean I’m ready for the next thing when I figure out what that is. And trusting that life is always right will keep me peaceful, knowing that there is a next thing, and that I don’t need to force it. It will show up at the exactly right time.
Just like everything else has since I got my eating under control.
This inspires me. I too find myself uncomfortable with boredom or empty time, and it’s good to see someone lovingly keeping boundaries even when it’s uncomfortable. Glad I found your site!
Thank you! I’m honored. And thanks for reading. It is always good to know somebody else identifies.